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Friday, July 30, 2021

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Steinem And Mankiller: Names History Will Remember

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BY WANDA JO STAPLETON

Our blood-red, Republican Oklahoma for awhile turned a tantalizing blue [in my mind, at least] 
last Thursday.

That’s when Gloria Steinem, world-renowned feminist leader, writer, and lecturer came to Oklahoma City University for a tree-planting ceremony to honor the late Wilma Mankiller, legendary Principal Chief of the Cherokee Nation [1985-1995].

During her reflections at the memorial tree-planting [of a Cherokee dogwood] Steinem recalled how she and Mankiller had met about 30 years ago and had formed a close, enduring friendship.

In fact, Steinem was married to David Bales in Mankiller’s home in 2000, with Charlie Soap, Mankiller’s husband, helping to officiate.

Charlie Soap also had a prominent part in the tree-planting ceremony.

First, he conducted the “Cedar Blessing.” Cedar is a wood known to the Cherokees for its purity and sacredness. Charlie built a “cedar” fire in a small, round vessel. Smoke soon poured from the sacred fire.

Then Charlie used what looked like huge feathers to direct the smoke onto the bodies of those who were to speak – thus blessing and purifying the speakers, including himself.

When finished, Charlie stepped up on the podium and told the crowd about his and Mankiller’s first date. They had worked together for months helping lay a 16-mile pipeline so that the Cherokees in the Bell community could have running water. He finally got up the nerve to ask her to go with him to Tulsa, from Adair County, to dine and see a movie.

After a couple of days to think about it, she said “yes.”

Upon arriving in Tulsa, he pulled into a Coney Island-type place and ordered foot-long hot dogs. Then they saw 
the movie “Rambo.”

En route home, he asked her how she liked the hot dogs and the movie. Her answer: “They were awful!”

Little did Charlie know that he was going to marry the woman to whom President Bill Clinton would present the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 1998.

Another of Mankiller’s awards was Ms. magazine’s Woman of the Year in 1987, a publication co-founded by Gloria Steinem.

Mankiller rose to international prominence despite frail health that grounded her from time to time. She died April 6, 2010 at her home located near a spring of water which she loved, close to Stilwell in Adair County.

Gloria Steinem travelled to Adair County to be with Mankiller in her final days and to help memorialize her dear friend of three decades – just as she did for the Oct. 6 memorial tree planting ceremony on the Oklahoma City University campus.

Steinem also helped with the “first watering” of the tree with water from that beloved spring in Adair County. Finally, she helped 
spread soil around the tree from the banks of that spring – soil on which Mankiller’s ashes had been spread after her cremation.

In conclusion, these two powerful symbols of achievement for women everywhere helped turn Republican, red Oklahoma to a serene blue for a little while, if only in my mind

Wanda Jo Stapleton, a former Democratic state representative from south Oklahoma City, is a regular contributor to The Oklahoma Observer

PHOTO: The author, Wanda Jo Stapleton, right, and Gloria Steinem at the Oct. 6 tree-planting ceremony.

 

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6 COMMENTS

  1. A fine commendation for all women of Oklahoma. I’m proud to be a member of the Oklahoma womanhood. We are all strong, independent survivors in the world once ruled only by men! Bravo, Ladies…..Beautiful and fitting ceremony for this female Cherokee leader. Thanks for sharing, Wanda!!!

  2. In my mind too, Wanda Jo! It was such a beautiful day to honor such a wonderful woman, Chief Wilma Mankiller. What struck me most about Ms. Steinem’s tribute to her friend was how she spoke concisely and compassionately about many of the issues she has given a voice to for the past 40+ years in LESS than 15 minutes. What a remarkable mind; what a passionate and amazing woman! I am so proud of my alma mater, Oklahoma City University, and the wonderful work that President Robert Henry has accomplished in such a short time!

    • Oh my, BG, your comment takes my breath away.

      I have been asked “why OCU”? Robert Henry, OCU President, is the connection. He spoke at Mankiller’s memorial service near Tahlequah when she died in the spring of last year. That’s when he was Chief Judge of the U.S. Court of Appeals, Tenth Circuit.

      At the tree planting, he dressed in an Indian shirt and had a major part in the ceremony. He made remarks in the middle of the service, helped with the physical tree planting, and made the closing remarks.

Arnold Hamilton
Arnold Hamilton became editor of The Observer in September 2006. Previously, he served nearly two decades as the Dallas Morning News’ Oklahoma Bureau chief. He also covered government and politics for the San Jose Mercury News, the Dallas Times Herald, the Tulsa Tribune and the Oklahoma Journal.